It is often the case with enlightened people that we feel a bit of a tug on the heartstrings when dealing with friends, family members, and those idiots on Facebook. If they only knew! you think, if they would just look a little deeper and see how their thoughts and their words affect their life! Aside from this blog and occasional thought-provoking quote memes that I share, I am for the most part rather quiet about my Knowledge. I do not go beating people over the head with Law of Attraction, I do not try to convince people of its Truth; if someone presents a problem to me or asks for advice, I give my best answer from my perspective but I do not carry on about the Source of that perspective. But still, I do feel frustrated at times when I see people I love and for whom I care deeply obviously sabotaging their lives with their view of things, but I have learned to dissipate that frustration almost immediately, because I know that everyone has their own path, and everyone’s experience, no matter how positive or negative, is still beneficial to the progress of Humanity.
But the main reason I choose not to focus on other people’s journey to the Truth is because I know it is not something that happens overnight. I for damn sure did not just wake up one morning and realize, “Oh! My thoughts and feelings create my World!” However, when I did finally have that beautiful, poignant, awakening moment of clarity, I was immediately inclined to look back and see how I had gotten there, and of course in that looking back I learned a lot, and I saw how The Law of Attraction has been calling me for a very long time, but I had to be ready to receive the message. I had to be in a place where the Truth would seem like Truth, and not just another “self-help” scenario that is a bunch of hogwash.
So if you are a skeptic of LOA but are still reading this, know that I get it. And I don’t blame you or think negatively at all if you think that everything I say is a bunch of hooey. Because there was a time when I would have thought that, too. But also know this. The seed has been planted, and even if you reject the reality of LOA at this moment, it will continue to reveal itself in the timing that is perfect for you. And once you get there, you may be inclined to think, Damn! I wish I would have known this ten years ago! But I am telling you now do not entertain that thought for any longer than the time it takes to think it. Because the truth is, you were not ready ten years ago, the truth is, that when you do ‘get it,’ like me you will probably realize that it was something you knew all along… You have all the pieces to the puzzle inside of you and surrounding you in perfect synchronicity, but often it is not until the last piece is in place that you really see the whole picture.
And so, I offer to you my literary trek into the all-consuming, all-powerful, beautiful, amazing dream that is the Law of Attraction. These were the building blocks of my current Knowledge. And you will see that it wasn’t until the very bottom of this chronological list that I actually found what I had been looking for all along, yet I know that in spiritual journeys, taking the stairs to the top is much easier than scaling the wall. It took me a long time to get up those steps, the first one was taken when I was a small child, and the rest over a span of about fifteen years… But what a journey it has been and I would not change it for anything. Because as Abraham says, words do not teach, only life experience does, and I consider mine all the more special because at its Ultimate Peak, I can look back and see that the truth I know now has evidenced itself in every phase of my growth, and it waited patiently to be found.
You will notice that I will mention quite a bit in the beginning about my life as a Christian, but I feel it necessary to express that that is there because Law of Attraction is not just a way to achieve abundance, prosperity, health, and love. At its core, it is a belief system that completely changes the way we view nonphysical and our physical relationship to it. My journey is not simply one to wealth and fame; it is very much that, but more importantly it centers around knowing Who I Really Am and Who We All Really Are. One simply cannot use the Law of Attraction fully and completely without the knowing and acceptance that we are spirits in human form, not just humans walking around who may or may not have a soul worthy of being saved. We are Infinite creatures, and that which we call God is inside of each and every one of us, a constant connection to Source Energy.
#1 The Bible
Currently my opinion of the Bible and its teachings are far different from the one that I held from childhood until my late twenties. Still, I cannot deny it as the foundation of my journey, because it was The Bible that introduced me to the idea of the nonphysical, spiritual world. Although my definition of God has changed profoundly, I can say that never once in this physical existence have I ever denied or even question the existence of Infinite Intelligence.
Interestingly enough, I actually have a fonder view of the Bible now than I did when I studied it as if it were the ultimate authority on life and how it should be lived, and that right there is exactly why… As a Christian, when I studied the Bible from the perspective of many of its teachers, although I did find comfort and inspiration at times, for the most part it was a source of grief, guilt, and the often misaligned feeling that I was always doing something wrong and I needed DISCIPLINE!
Since my awakening, I have taken a couple of looks into the Bible, and surprisingly I found it is FULL of teachings that point DIRECTLY to the Law of Attraction. Yet of course that discovery also came with the knowledge that its teachings have been bastardized, exploited, and manipulated for the express purpose of manipulating mankind. If it were being taught as it was intended to be taught, as merely a guidepost and not the end-all-be-all-only-way-to-live-life-or-you-will-suffer-for-eternity, well then quite honestly the current explosion of the knowledge of Law of Attraction would have happened a long time ago.
Still, I find it consoling and actually quite a positive experience that I can look at the Bible now and appreciate it for what it is. “What it is,” of course could be a blog all of its own, so for now it will simply remain known as a crucial Step #1 of my Spiritual Journey.
#2 The Alchemist, by Paulo Coehlo
Still one of my favorite books of all time, I first read The Alchemist when I was in college, at another time in my life when I was rejecting Christianity, but in a rebellious, defiant way, not as I do now based on my alignment with the Truth of Infinite Intelligence. I partied hard, I studied none, I took care of my body even less, I was fat, awkward, sick all of the time, and really had no idea how the fuck I was going to get where I knew I belonged. This book introduced the concept of The Universe, one that deep inside I accepted immediately, but then would spend many subsequent years trying to reconcile it with my preconceived, Christian notion of God (I returned to Christianity when I moved to Chicago after graduation).
The Alchemist is a fable, the tale of a Spanish shepherd boy and his journey to realizing his destiny through his connection to the Universe, and if you have not read it I HIGHLY recommend that you do so. Now. Well, after you finish reading this list. It is an easy read, and almost every page contains something “quote worthy.” These are a few of my favorites:
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it.”
“It is the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.”
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better, too.”
“One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.”
“People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of.”
“When you are loved, you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there is no need at all to understand what is happening, because everything happens within you.”
“We are travelers on a cosmic journey, stardust, swirling and dancing in the eddies and whirlpools of infinity. Life is eternal. We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. This is a precious moment. It is a little parenthesis in eternity.”
The Alchemist was a gentle introduction to the premise of Law of Attraction for me, and these quotes and many others would always stay with me, even as I was desperately clinging to the beliefs ingrained in me as a child. Not just Christianity, but the beliefs perpetuated by our society that we have only one chance at life, that life sucks then you die, that we must be required to do what is right, not what is best for us, that we must slave away our lives with the hope of retirement to keep us going, but then when retirement finally arrives you are too bitter and jaded to enjoy it. It was this book that very early on made me believe in my dreams, even though I did not yet know their Power.
#3 The Heart of God, by Rabindranath Tagore
One day when I was living in Chicago, I was downtown in a Borders book store perusing the Theatre section when a misplaced book caught my eye. Tucked in between George Bernard Shaw and Sam Shepard was a collection of poems, much like the Psalms, but written by a late 19th, early 20th century poet from India. Rabindranath Tagore was a prominent author, educator, and social reformer in his native country, and is credited along with Mahatma Gandhi for being the “foremost intellectual and spiritual advocates of India’s liberation from imperial rule.” (from the foreword)
The Heart of God is a collection of seventy-seven of his poems, all of which convey a deep, soulful connection to God that rivals if not exceeds the Psalms of David. Now it is important to know that at the time I discovered this book, I was still a card-carrying Christian Conservative (yes, living in Chicago, that was fun). The reason that is important is because here I was, a person that believed deeply and without hesitation that if you did not believe in Jesus Christ, you were going to hell for eternity, yet I was absolutely enthralled, enraptured by this poetry, I could feel the love for the Infinite oozing off of the page. And here we have true irony, folks, not the black fly in your chardonnay bullshit (Alanis you RUINED that literary technique for every intelligent person, Thanks.) If you will just indulge my abundant love for grammar for just ONE little second, irony is the statement of two opposing truths, from which a third truth can be reckoned. You see why that’s important here? A devout follower of Jesus Christ was moved to tears by the work of a man who knew NOTHING of the Christian faith save maybe the fact that it existed somewhere in another country.
So I know you’re thinking, wow, you said you didn’t find the last piece of the puzzle until the end of the list! Short list, lady! But that’s the thing. At the time I found this book, so taken in was I by the work that I just kind of casually ignored the fact that he wasn’t a Christian (those beliefs hold fast, I know…), and I did not at the time seek out the afore mentioned irony and the third truth that it held. Funny, looking back I honestly don’t know how I missed it, but it was not until many years later that I would remember that book that I had found so serendipitously many years before, and in that remembrance I would realize that the Universe had been trying to tell me something for a very, very long time. I will never forget the day that I pulled that book out and skimmed through the pages. Then in a moment wrought with a peculiar combination of rage and relief, I slammed it shut and shouted to The Universe, “There is NO WAY!!! That this guy is going to hell!”
#4 Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, by T. Harv Eker
Okay, so technically I did not read this book, I listened to it on CD… But it is a book and I am forgiven because I am an avid reader and this is like the only book EVER that I have listened to and not actually read. And it especially counts because it, like The Alchemist, was a bit of a Launchpad back into the teachings of Law of Attraction after I had returned to the teachings of the Christian church. Of course, again, it was not until I got to the end of this list that I truly appreciated what was housed in Eker’s teaching, but it most assuredly was a guidepost, introducing concepts to me that then would not seem so foreign when I came to know what they really meant.
Among the ideas perpetuated in Secrets of the Millionaire Mind is the premise that, “What you focus on, expands.” Duh, right? I appreciated this concept immediately but again did not yet know that to truly “focus” means to align with the God inside me and then think about what I want to focus on. Another interesting piece of this book is the part when he tells about a study of people that suddenly became ultra successful, and what was found was that before this dramatic change occurred, each person had been engaging what he refers to as “blue sky thinking,” the act of envisioning their ideal life, their ideal job, their ideal circumstances. Yet another resounding “duh” can be heard from the LOA Peanut Gallery.
And I know, it is hard to believe for me, too, that by this point in my life I hadn’t quite “gotten it,” it’s like damn, Kimber, how thick-headed are you, right? Well, pretty thick-headed, just like all of us were at one time or another, and how many people are right this moment. You see, THAT is the power of the established belief systems of both modern religion and societal expectations. For those of us that have awakened, let’s just count our lucky stars that burning people at the stake is now considered barbaric and passé…
#5 Enthusiasm Makes the Difference, by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale
When I moved back to Texas from Chicago, I began about a three year stint as a car salesman. And I hated almost every fucking minute of it. But what I did love were the people. No one ever says, I want to be a car salesman when I grow up, so my co-workers were always a muddled mix of has-beens and wanna-bees from every rung of the socioeconomic ladder. There were the pretty boy rich kids whose daddy owned the dealership, there were the haggard, washed up lackies who were absolutely useless, there were the power hungry managers who were just downright assholes, but my favorites of course were the old guys that for the most part went unnoticed… But they were always the ones with the Wisdom.
One of those fellas was named Dan, if he had been a character in Office Space, he would have been a cross between Milton and the perky, happy receptionist. One day he handed me a first edition of Enthusiasm Made the Difference, printed in 1972. A lover of both books and all things old I read the book eagerly, and although some of the social references were a bit outdated, the premises contained within resulted in a HUGE shift of my Paradigm: For the first time ever in my life I became an Optimist.
Peale speaks of the effectiveness of enthusiasm when it comes from a deep, centered place and is directed in a positive, productive way, not just brash, feigned energy. And when looked upon from the perspective of Law of Attraction and Who We Really Are, this is just another way of saying that we have the power inside of us to directly affect the circumstances outside of us. This book singlehandedly taught me how to look at situations from a positive perspective, before, my mantra had been “hope for the best, but expect the worst.” Well not only is hope a very weak word when it comes to our Power, if we are expecting anything we should be expecting the best. In fact expectation is one of the biggest keys to utilizing LOA, and if you use it directed toward the worst outcome then guess what? That’s what you’re gonna get. Maybe not directly, but the constant angst and worry created from expecting the worst can manifest itself in many, many ways, and they are not always directly tied to the event about which you are worrying. For example during the time I was living this mantra I always had a great job, I always had plenty of money, and after shedding my gross college weight I was even downright beautiful through most of it. But I was sick all the time (chronic bronchitis), I was nowhere NEAR doing the type of work I wanted to be doing, my personal relationships were unfulfilling and often brief, friendships were strained by my willingness to give and the expectance of them to give, too, and I was FAR from what I would call Happy, even though the bills were always paid on time, I had a great place to live, and plenty of people with whom to party away the time.
And much like all great writing when it comes from Within, this is exactly the time in my life, from shortly before Enthusiasm up until the discovery of my next Textbook, that all of those aspects of my life did a complete 180. I left Chicago to go to law school, only to be denied the loans I needed two weeks before orientation… So I lived with my parents for a while, had a couple of destructive relationships, moved back to Chicago only to miss my family so much that I started listening to country music, GAG! But moving back didn’t help the loneliness or the despair, and I continued to flounder, working jobs I hated but thought I needed, and after another brief stint of playing the party girl that I SO was NOT, I realized that not only do I despise alcohol (literally, the taste and being drunk just feels gross to me, but everyone does it, right?), but I did not like the friends that alcohol made for me. Then it seemed things started to look up when I met an amazing man, he was everything I thought I wanted, tall, dark, handsome, a great dancer, a great everything. We moved to Galveston, where I was cast in a high profile role at a local theatre, he got promoted… We even got engaged, but two months later everything went to shit. Not only did the relationship end but his promotion was to manager of the restaurant where I bartended, so I quit and had no job. All of our money was in his bank account so we could pay the bills (to which I had no access), rent was due, and the electricity was in his name so guess what? The lights had officially gone out on Kimber.
But interestingly enough, just a couple of months before I met him I had one of my greatest epiphanies, to which I was guided by a very dear friend. His kindred spirit had led me to the full realization that The Universe had been trying to get across to me for so long: although there is some validity in the spirit of Christian teachings, it is by no means whatsoever the only way to get to God. That friend read a passage to me from a book, I don’t remember what it was, but when he finished he closed the pages softly, looked at me gently, and said, “you cannot tell me that this guy is going to hell.” No, no I could not.
However this epiphany was interrupted by the introduction to my lover. I say it was an interruption because he was Muslim, and I was silly enough to think that the only reason I had discovered what I had discovered about modern religion was so that I would not miss out on this love of my life. Hahahahaha!!! Yes, that is me laughing at my dumb, stupid, ya-gotta-love-me self.
#6 The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne
No cheating here, I have not even seen the movie all the way through, but I have read the book time and time again. The part I love most about my story involving this book is that in the months prior to my afore mentioned epiphany and relationship, I had engaged in a book-swap with a co-worker. I’m pretty sure I gave him The Alchemist, and he brought The Secret to work for me. Now, in case this has not been clearly expressed yet, I LOVE BOOKS. I love them so much that when people lend them to me I NEVER give them back. Not to mention I was totally crushing on this guy so the fact that he had remembered to bring a book to me at work, like well I may as well have been in high school I was just so flattered. I mean HE brought ME a BOOK! How many parts of that sentence are there to love???
The reason I embellish this reaction (not by much, though) is because I did the absolute UNTHINKABLE in a situation such as this: I LEFT THE BOOK AT WORK!! He retrieved it, but never brought it to me again. I am not sure why I was not ready to read it then, but fortunately the Universe knows what it is doing. I needed to have my next experience with The Secret, to really know its value.
The rise from the ashes of my decimated relationship is for the most part a blurry haze… I remember my Dad writing a check to my new landlord, for which he was reimbursed from the selling of my ring… I remember crying a lot, and yelling a lot, and hating myself a lot…
But one thing I remember distinctly was a moment when I asked God for something, very simply but in these exact words… I said, “I want to know my Power.” Something inside of me was stirring… I knew that there was something I was missing, I KNEW from all of my experiences from birth up until that point, that I had a POWER inside of me, I just didn’t know how to get to it. At the time I was asking, I did not know that the Knowledge I would receive was a Power that everyone has, but I did come into complete reconciliation that there was something special about Me. I could effect the weather with my thoughts, I could dissolve clouds, I felt an intense connection to Earth and all the Creatures upon it, I could heal animals, I observed synchronicity EVERYWHERE, I felt within me a deep resonance with spiritual power, and I wanted to know more.
I asked, but then I thought very little of it, until just a short time later my new boss mentioned The Secret to me. And I said, ya know, someone tried to give me that book a long time ago….
The Secret would not only reveal to me the power that I so had been yearning to know, they would not only be the answer to my request, and they would not be the only answer to my request. Most importantly, it was the beginning of my Ultimate and Final reconciliation with the place of modern religion in regards to the Human Experience. It opened me up to the God Within Me, so much more than just a “soul” as the modern connotation dictates, and it brought me to the penultimate realization that Jesus was not any more God than you or I. His story is merely one that has been deified by man, his teachings have been manipulated in order to make You GIVE UP your power, yet all along, all he was teaching Law of Attraction. He told his disciples, “I have come so that you may do greater things than these you have seen.” He didn’t say look at what I did and worship me, Jesus came to be the Grand Example of what Law of Attraction can really do, what You can really do when you harness the power of God as You are meant to do. At last, I was not only beginning to find my own Power, I had finally been given peace. The war between the God of Man and the God of Me had been waging for years inside of me, but the swords were finally sheathed.
#7 Money, and the Law of Attraction, by Jerry and Esther Hicks (the teachings of Abraham, a collection of consciousness channeled through Esther Hicks)
At last we come to the end of the list, the final piece of the puzzle, the final lifting of the blinders into clear, progressive, leading-edge thinking. To be fair at one time not too long ago I did think that The Secret was the final piece, but that’s only until I met Abraham. So I suppose it is likely that there will be another teacher, another text that will take me even beyond where I am now, but I have to be quite honest and say that I really think this is It. I do not mean that “It” is the end of learning, or the end of expanding, that’s exactly it, it is not the END of anything, rather the reason Abraham I believe is the final piece is because I finally feel like I am at the BEGINNING! Not only that, but within the truths contained in their teachings is the notion that we are ALWAYS beginning, and that we will never get it done, we will always want more, and that dear friends is the sheer beauty of it.
Abraham are the ones who taught me that everything is energy, EVERYTHING is energy. Abraham taught me that the God inside me is real, and it is not just merely a “soul” that is somehow attached to God, it is a piece of God. I am a physical expression of Universal energy, experiencing itself here on Earth just for the joy of it. I am INFINITE!! There is not only one life, and then an eternity in one direction or the other, really wrap your mind around the amazing truth of that, can’t you just feel that resonating inside of you? You are Infinite! And speaking of being Infinite another one of the most profound discoveries I had at the behest of Abraham is the reality of death, and that it is not that big of a deal. Death is only the end of the physical body, NOT the end of the line, or the end of the human experience. We come back to this Earth again, and again, and again, always with the knowing that all is well, and always with the knowing that we have a guidance system inside of us that will lead us to the Truth.
See, The Secret is great but it is NOT THE WHOLE STORY. In order to really realize how Law of Attraction works, you must go beyond the surface application, be willing to DENY everything that modern religion has taught you about salvation or living life rightly, and OWN the fact that you are a piece of God, embodied in physical form, and that every thought you think serves for the progress of human race.
And speaking of that, I will conclude with my absolute favorite realization spurred by Abraham, honestly I could write pages and pages of all I have learned from them, but I will leave you with this. Not only are you as an individual Infinite, the Human Race and Earth is Infinite as well. Perhaps the most detrimental idea, at the veritable core of our human ignorance regarding LOA, is the fact that we one day this will all end with spiritual battle and bloodshed and the apocalypse. That is simply not so, not at all, not one little tiny bit. The ONLY thing certain is our EXPANSION as a human race, not our demise. And when I took the cue from Abraham and began to look at the world, its history, and the inevitable progression that we have traveled so far, I see that this is not only so right, but it is so inspiring and uplifting. We are at the dawn of an awakening, and although I do not deny that some civilizations as we know them will cease to exist, the Human Race will go on, forever.
Some people like to credit the aliens with building those mind-blowing, ancient structures we have unearthed. But what if it was not aliens at all? What if it was just humans, humans that KNEW their power, knew their connection to the Infinite, and knew that a collective consciousness that resonates at that high of a frequency, well, that can accomplish anything. We have spent the last few thousands of years denying that power, and finding all of these fancy ways to deny it even more, but let’s just hope that for the next few thousand, we will learn again how to use it.
Honorable Mentions: This is by no means a list of every book I have read, these were merely the beacons in the night. These figures, authors, books, and subjects have also contributed immensely to my understanding of The Universe and Law of Attraction: Nikola Tesla, Albert Einstein; The Power, by Rhonda Byrne (sequel to The Secret); Anthony Robbins; Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill; A Guide to the Huna Way (ancient Hawaiian teachings of LOA); Alchemy, by St. Germain; 11:11 Awakening Code; and Joel Osteen.
I was searching today… and by searching I mean straight up asking Infinite Intelligence to show me what I was missing. You see there is a certain manifestation of a certain vibration that has been popping its head up pretty regularly in my life. But in this particular instance, it is not a good thing and I had no idea what I was doing to make it keep happening. I tried to ignore it, to shift my thinking, to send positive thoughts and love to it, but yet it was the proverbial thorn in my side that just would NOT friggin come out. (Interjection: If you are new to the Law of Attraction, yes, that was me right there taking responsibility for someone toxic in my life. It does not mean that I blame myself for the way that they act, or think that I have done anything wrong, I just know that I *attract* every last detail of my life to myself, therefore if there is something unwanted in my life, it is because my alignment with my Source is off and my vibration is resonating on a frequency that is not beneficial. I do not have to change their actions or blame them to fix the situation, I merely know that I must raise my frequency. If I do they, there are only two things that can happen, either they will adjust and raise to my vibration and the relationship will no longer be toxic, or they will vibrate right out of my existence.)
Earlier today, I read a blog article by Melody Fletcher. If you are a student of LOA and you like the smart ass way that *I* write, you should check her out, she’s awesome. The article I read centered around relationships but pertinent to today’s journey to enlightenment, I took from it that every person you attract to your life is there a) because you are a vibrational match to them and b) because you have something to learn from them which will help you raise your vibration even further and therefore expand and grow as we are meant to do.
So I Asked for the answer. Since obviously I had no idea what part of my vibration it was that kept attracting this circumstance to me, it was obvious that Melody was right: this person, this circumstance was here to teach me something. And if I could find out why I would not only raise my vibration high enough to rid myself of this predicament, I knew that it would probably reveal to me something much bigger than I even thought. Something that may even hold some answers to other facets of resistance I have been facing in my life.
I was right.
It was in the car ride home from the store that I “straight up asked,” and then my stream of consciousness went on its merry way until I arrived home to my sparkling, freshly cleaned kitchen. Prior to going to the store, it had been a wreck. I had a deadline today so for the past couple of days I have been in focused, dedicated writer mode, which means I use my work as an excuse to only go in there to dirty it up. But deadline was submitted and I refused to bring fresh groceries into a dirty kitchen so I got to it. And as I am putting my groceries away, reveling in the sparkling freshness of my kitchen I realized how much I love a clean kitchen. Because I really, really do, something about a shiny sink and squeaky clean countertops just makes me feel all happy inside. (I’m pretty sure there is a name for that… it’s called OCD, but fortunately for me I don’t do labels.)
Well of course the vision of clean made me so grateful it was not dirty anymore, like it had been before I cleaned it. And the dirtiness of it before served immediately to amplify the awesomeness of the cleanliness. And then it hit me like a ton of dirty dishes. I do this a lottt… In fact, it seems that I like clean so much that I let it get dirty just so I can clean it up!
Immediately I remembered something I had heard Abraham say on a couple of different occasions when they discuss why human beings often enjoy the drama of life and so create it, and therefore make things harder on themselves. They Said, “It is like hitting yourself over the head with a hammer because it feels so good when you stop.” And that is exactly what I have been doing, not only with the state of my kitchen, but with the state of my vibrational offering as well.
Lately, I have been noticing that in my spiritual journey and my path along the way to receiving everything I know I deserve and want for my life, that it feels like I take three steps forward and two steps back. And no, I did not get the cliché wrong there, that is really what I mean. It’s not one step forward and two steps back because I have been growing, I have been learning, I have been expanding, but it has felt like I have been making it a lot more difficult on myself than it should. I feel like I make progress and then I sabotage myself. And the manifestation of this in my life is that I grow, but not as fast I think I should.
But my beautiful kitchen made it all make sense. I clean up my vibration, I clean it up all nice and tidy and wonderful things start to happen and the door to My World starts to open but then I neglect my vibration, start to get down on myself, and then right before I’m about to take that last step back I raise it again. And it feels SO GOOD when I am back on my positive wavelength. In fact, I think I have been dirtying up my vibration because it feels SO GOOD when I clean it up!
Obviously I have not been doing this on purpose but I have been doing it all the same, and the Universe does not care whether you are offering your vibration intentionally or not. It simply responds to what you are sending out. But the worst (and the best! because I figured it out) part of this is that this is exactly why I have been in three-step/two-step mode. So naturally, the next question I asked myself was Why? Do I do this? Not just with my frequency but with my kitchen I mean for real, how hard is it to clean as you go? I’m just being lazy.
But then I re-thought that… No, that’s not exactly it, I am actually one of the most un-lazy people ever and I LOVE to clean (yes, boys, she’s single…). So it was not about being lazy, it was because I have trained myself to think that this was actually the more efficient way of doing things. Whether it stems from just my personality of wanting to feel like I’ve accomplished something big, or what, who cares, I hate psychology, the fact of the matter was that I had nurtured the belief that my “system” was “efficient” and so I continued on in this manner. And as I began to think more about it I realized that I was like this in several areas of my life, I have always been a rather “all or nothing” type of a girl. For example if I have four articles due on the same deadline, I cannot write a WORD until I have all four interviews completed and all the research for all four articles together. Even if I finish one of the interviews and research two weeks before deadline, I can never bring myself to write until I have it “all together.” Again, I am not sure why or how I came about thinking this was the right way to do things, this “method” had carried over from my physical reality to my vibrational reality and the process I use to maintain it. And the reason I kept doing it is because I had never thought to question my belief that what I was doing was the easiest way to do things.
Um, it’s not.
Of course I know that now, thank you Infinite Intelligence, and I believe that this is probably one of the biggest steps that I have taken in my journey of understanding how important it is to use the people and circumstances in your life to teach you how to live. When you decide to consciously take control of your World by controlling your thoughts, tuning into Source, and deliberately offering a vibration instead of just reacting to everything around you, you understand that everything in your existence is there for your good, for your progression, for your growth. Just because you may be standing in a place that you don’t want to be, does not mean that you are doing anything wrong. It simply means that you are focusing on the negative end of the spectrum, or that you are holding fast to a belief that no longer serves you, but whatever the case there is something to be learned. Many of us have heard the adage, what you do not like about other people is usually what you do not like about yourself. Although there may be some shred of truth to that statement, the presentation of it is all wrong. When there is someone in your existence that you do not necessarily “like,” or someone that is giving you a hard time, plain and simple you are giving off a signal that in some way matches theirs, this is Law. If you did not match up on some frequency with that person they could not be in your life, it is impossible. But it does not mean that there is something about yourself that you do not like, or if there is that is a-whole-nother blog because You are AWESOME. It simply means that there is something you are giving off that is not quite in tune with All That You Are, and it feels negative because you are not seeing it as Infinite Intelligence sees it. So take a step back, and do not punish yourself or try to psychoanalyze what you did wrong because you have done no such thing. Simply knowing that there is something to be learned is the only realization you need to make. And the only thing you must do from there is ask for it to be revealed to you. Everything you need to know about everything you are and everything you want to be is Right. Inside. You.
If you have questions about what I have said here, or would like me to expand on any certain part of this dialogue, feel free to leave a comment or contact me directly at Kimber.firstname.lastname@example.org.
Peace, Love, and Palm Trees,
“The world is the worst it’s ever been. But it is also the best it has ever been, and you get to decide what part of it you play in.” -Abraham, as channeled through Esther Hicks
The first part of that statement is pretty easy for most of us to believe. The world has gotten so small, and so much information is available, and the sensationalism of all of that information is so rampant, that we cannot help but be inundated with a negative view of our world. War, poverty, crime, heck even those photographs of the lost doggies on Facebook are enough to make your heart ache. But the entirety of this statement is Ultimate Truth, which yes, means that the world is also the best it has ever been. We can travel around the world in a matter of hours, we can have a face to face discussion with someone not even in our remote vicinity. Remember in Back to the Future II when Biff makes a phone call and the face pops up on the screen? And at the time that was so novel, so futuristic. Well that future is here, and whether or not you want to believe it, the human race has always progressed, is currently progressing, and will continue to progress.
Point is, the progress of humankind is inevitable and change is the one thing that is constant. That means that new ideas and new theories will now and forever be popping up; as the collective consciousness of the human race expands, so does our understanding of it. One need look no further than the explosion of Quantum Physics onto the scene which is indubitably shattering all previous conceptions of how we view time and space. Even though Nikola Tesla and Albert Einstein were trying to tell us this ages ago, it is only recently with the expansion of the studies of Quantum Mechanics that it is becoming more widely accepted.
And thus it goes with what is now affectionately referred to as the Law of Attraction. To those that know it and have lived it, it is as undeniable as the Law of Gravity. But, especially in Western culture, it is a relatively new idea, and it flies in the face of the modern teachings of most established religions to which so many currently cling. And so it is often dismissed as ridiculous or pie-in-the-sky; the notion that we are energy and we are emitting vibration into the Universe that draws circumstances and people to us and creates our world is just crazy!! But if you are one of those people, do not worry, you have many sympathetic souls that line the portals of history that will heartily agree with your skepticism… the ones that immediately come to mind are those who believed with every fiber of their being that the world was flat.
So, naysayers, I am here to make the premise behind LOA a bit more palatable, because I know from my own experience that the difficulty people have with embracing the knowledge that is emerging about this Law is not only in its inherent characteristics, but in its practice. Initial or superficial glances into or studies of the implementing of LOA in your life are what seem so outlandish because really, it would be a lot easier just to purchase a pair of rose colored glasses, right?
Well, maybe easier at first, but I had a pair of rose colored glasses in college, and I looked like a bad ass wearing them, too. But I lost them, and I don’t even think I have a picture of me when I was wearing them. The Law of Attraction, when it is fully understood, is a door that once open can never be closed, it is knowledge that can never be unlearned, and it will pervade your life with a peace and clarity that can never, ever be lost.
So here are a few aspects of the Law of Attraction that are often met with criticism, but only because they are misunderstood.
1. Positive Thinking. Think positive and positive things will happen!! Geez how many memes have you seen with THAT, huh? There are two initial reactions to this saying. 1. Bullshit. Okay, well, that’s why we are here reading this, isn’t it, so just humor me and play along because number two isn’t much better but will have the same results as just dismissing it from the beginning. The 2. reaction is okay that sounds easy, I can do that, and so you try it. You force yourself to think positive, you put on that fake smile, you tell yourself everything is going to be okay. But then nothing happens and nothing changes and the reaction to your efforts is now the same as the skeptic’s. This is bullshit. (Told you it ended up the same… I know. I’ve been there.)
Although this saying is perpetuated by well-intentioned people, there is a real problem in just Thinking Positive!! I am not saying that thinking positive thoughts is not part of the practice of LOA, but I am very much saying there is another very important part of the equation that is missing here. It is not just about the thoughts you are thinking, it is about the emotion that is generated by the thoughts. For example take each one of the top three things that concern us most as humans: money, love, and our physical bodies. You may be saying the words I want more money, I want a committed relationship, I want my perfect, healthy body, but when you force those “positive” mantras from a place of feeling badI about your finances, dating life, or weight, the words have no real meaning because it is the emotion behind them that is actually important. Think about it. When you say, “I want to make more money,” most people are actually feeling like they hate their job, like they are broke all the time, or they are feeling the anxiety of debt.
The reason that positive thinking alone does not change anything is because so often when we try to think about positive things, like dream about our awesome new promotion, or tell ourselves we are worthy of love, or think I will feel better once I go to the gym, we are immediately met by the “reality” of the situation which completely contradicts the mantra we are reciting, and that creates a discord inside of us, which is negative emotion and therefore completely counterproductive to what we were trying to achieve by thinking positively.
See, the Universe does not respond to your thoughts, it responds to your vibration, which in the physical human experience is translated as emotion. How you feel is what is attracting things to you and creating your world, not necessarily what you are thinking. That being said, however, there is a connection between what you are thinking and what you are feeling. A very direct connection. And the discovery of this connection changed my life (and it will change yours if you let it) because with this simple realization, you learn how to control your mind and your thoughts. When you are feeling bad, it means that you are thinking bad thoughts. Once more, no bold or italic so it doesn’t sound so scary. When you are feeling bad, it means that you are thinking bad thoughts.
Most of us, including me for the majority of my life up to now, are like a super-sensitive pinball getting knocked around a glass case. Bouncing of the sides and flying off the ramp head first into a sink hole. And we think there is nothing we can do about it. We think that the purpose of life is just to put up with as much shit as possible and if something or someone makes me feel bad, or sad, or mad, well then it was their fault and I am just responding to the action or circumstance. And damn those little flippers at the bottom they are keeping me from just getting home and getting some rest already. But when you wholeheartedly embrace the fact and realize for yourself that your emotions are there to guide you, you will see that your emotions do not control you, you control your emotions. And the way you control your emotions is by using them. From now until the end, when you are feeling bad, you will know that it is because you are thinking bad thoughts, and by slowly easing off of the negative thoughts into more positive ones, your emotion will shift, and so will your vibration.
2. The Universe. I was introduced to the concept of The Universe over fifteen years ago by Paulo Coehlo in his book The Alchemist. At the time I was still a follower of the Christian faith, and I wrestled with the concept endlessly. How could I believe in this Ultimate Being in the Sky and yet feel deep inside that the reality of the Universe was also true? Well, I am not here to try to change anyone’s religious beliefs (at least not in this blog), but my journey included the torment, and then the reconciliation that both exist, in fact, it is God’s Universe, and then on to my final realization that when people speak of the Universe, they speak of nothing but God. The Universe and God are the same thing. But the reason that sounds like blaspheme to many is because there is this prevailing notion of God being a single entity or deity, we even personalize God to the extent of giving it gender, as in His will, His blessing, His teaching. But God is not a single consciousness. IT is a collective consciousness, God as we refer to it is better connoted as Infinite Intelligence, Source, Being, Consciousness. It is the collection of everything nonphysical, all the energy, all the power, all the life force, all of both the seen and the unseen. And It is right inside every one of us. Those who call God “Him” also often use the word Soul. But what is a soul except that unseen part of us that connects us to God? And if God is everything and all things, and the part inside of us is the connection and therefore the identity we share with the Universe, then that can only mean that that which we call God is inside You.
This is why Law of Attraction is a finite law, just like the Law of Gravity. Because that soul inside of you is the purveyor of your vibration. It is what connects you to God, the Universe, Infinite Intelligence, and therefore it is what transmits the signal of your emotion, which is translated by God or the Universe as vibration. And whatever signal you are sending out, is what you are getting back. I encourage any of you who may see this as sacrilege, to re-read your religious texts in the light of what I have told you. You may be surprised by what is revealed. “You reap what you sow.” This is not just referring to action, it is referring to the signal or vibration you emit which is a direct result of what you are feeling, which is a direct result of what you are thinking, and it is what draws every last minute detail of your circumstances to you.
3. Visualization and Acting “As If.” Both of these concepts are taught by almost every LOA teacher or spiritual guide, and quite often they can be very useful, again, only if the feeling you feel when you are visualizing matches up with what you really want. Students of the Law of Attraction are instructed to not only envision what their perfect life would look like and of course what it would feel like, but we are also encouraged on many fronts to act as if we already have the life we have and the money we want and the body we desire and the love we crave. These are most assuredly good techniques, because they are based on the (infinitely true) premise that they help you align your vibration with what you want and thus bring it to you. Most of us think that when we get all the stuff we want, then we will be happy. But the Law of Attraction states that first you must be happy, and then all of the stuff will come.
But this is inherently problematic for most people, and we have to understand the power of our innate beliefs and how they directly affect the effectiveness of visualization and acting “as if.” For example, when we begin to visualize that promotion, it is natural along the path of your daydream to encounter not only the joys of the situation but the problems that could arise from it as well. For instance, what if your co-workers hate you because you got the promotion and they didn’t? And then once your mind latches on to one negative aspect, it gains momentum and you start thinking about all the other things that could go wrong, what if I have to relocate? What if it is too much responsibility? And so on and so forth until you end up feeling worse than you ever did before your started this stupid visualizing. And “as if” is just as troublesome. It is great to walk around your house feeling like the rock star you know you are destined to be, but once you have to walk out the door and get in your car to drive to the office you are stuck in for eight hours, the belief of the reality of your situation takes hold and suddenly you feel like a big ole phony.
So even though these two techniques are effective as long as you can stay on the positive stream of thought while you indulge in them, what do you do about the rest of the day? You cannot visualize being independently wealthy for an hour, live the other seventeen waking hours in disgust of your life, and expect to have any results. But neither can you keep up your rock star charade at the office, let’s face it. Ripped jeans and a Zeppelin T-shirt are not exactly appropriate attire. So now what?
Well, it is important to realize that IF visualization is even important at all, it is actually only the first step and not the ultimate goal. When you visualize you are ultimately telling the Universe what you want. But the thing is, you only have to tell It once. Ask, and it is given. From God’s mouth to the Universe’s ears. If you have given thought even once in your life to what your ideal job would be, rest assured it is There, immediately, just waiting for you to become a vibrational match to it. But when we meet with the afore mentioned resistance to the visualization and “as if” exercises, it can actually do more harm than good because it creates a conflicting vibration and therefore holds you away from what you want, for longer than you want. Fortunately for all of us the beauty of Law of Attraction is that the Universe does not expect us to just have one thought or vision at all times and only focus on that one thing or it will never come to pass. Not only would that be impractical it would be downright impossible. Even if you locked yourself in a dark, quiet room, your mind would eventually shift focus.
The true power of the LOA is unleashed not in a singular, determined focus on one particular positive thought or situation, but in deciding to choose a positive thought about whatever moment or situation you are in right now. Meaning that your rock star gig is right there, waiting for you, but the way to it is not necessarily focusing always on how good it will feel to be a rock star, but in feeling good and focusing on the positive aspects of your current office job. Every subject, no matter what it is, has two perspectives. A perspective that feels good when you think about it, and a perspective that feels bad. And if you take the opportunity in every moment to find the positive perspective of whatever it is you are experiencing, your positive thought will create positive emotion which will gain momentum and propel you to your dream. You do not have to be consciously, positively focused on your thoughts of an ideal life at all times in order to manifest the ideal life. Rather you must see your life now as ideal and find things to appreciate in your current situation. They are there. If you do not see the magnitude of blessings that have already been bestowed upon you right now where you stand, then it is only because you have chosen to focus on the things about it that are bad. Whatever you want, be it wealth, love, or health, you want it because you know that when you have it, you will feel good. So make the decision to feel good now, because you always take yourself with you. Even if you do manage to ignore this paragraph and visualize your way to your promotion, if you have not trained your thoughts to consistently look for the good, your success will implode because you will still be overwhelmed by the negative end of what you are experiencing, and you will be left just as unfulfilled as you were when you were the low man on the totem pole.
4. Meditation. The method of visualization is often coupled with meditation and although meditation is important we are remiss in our thinking that the only effective meditation is complete quiet and stillness. Life can be meditation, doing anything creative can be meditation, basking in a sunrise can be meditation. Anything that truly makes you feel connected to the Source within you, is meditation.
5. Gratitude. It is great to be grateful, but the word grateful in essence refers to things that have already happened. So yes, you do want to be grateful, but a far less somber and way more in-the-present-moment word is Appreciation. To appreciate things, people, or circumstances, is to remove any and all attachment and therefore rid yourself of any need for control. If you appreciate your child’s personality, you embrace it and do not need to change it to suit your preferences. If you appreciate the food that you are eating right now in this moment, it can not help but assimilate perfectly into your body without the need to micromanage every last ounce and calorie. If you appreciate the life you are living now, and the beauty it possesses, you will see that everything really does always work out for you, and so you can let go of your need to “fight” for your future because you know it is certain. Be grateful for the things that have happened, but appreciate the things in your Now.
6. The Past. It doesn’t exist. You have only your Now. This moment. There is no need to psychoanalyze every last bit of data from your childhood whether euphoric or traumatic, there is only the choice to feel good, right now, about you and your power and your circumstances, right now. This is not ignoring a problem, or refusing to “root out” your “demons,” there are no such things and there is no such process that will EVER be effective. Because to focus on “cleansing your psyche” of problems is only to give it power. The power to derail your thinking into an abyss of regret or pain, which, as you already know because you paid attention, creates negative emotion, which in turn, brings to you more of that which you were trying to “escape.” Psychology is probably one of the most detrimental sciences we could have invented because it stymies the progress of Man. It does not matter one stinking tiny bit why you are thinking what you are thinking. The only thing that matters is what you are thinking right now, and how that thought makes you feel. Because it is your now that creates your world. It is the vibration you send out today that determines your tomorrow.
The proof is obvious that society has progressed overall throughout history in their views and postulations on women’s rights. Even more obvious is the inherent shift in the male/female dynamic that has accompanied this emergence of independent ladies. But it is not as rosy and victorious as would appear from the surface, much like the nuances of racism are still all too recognizable fifty years after the Civil Rights Movement. A large facet of the entire identity of one half of our political party system is their stance to deny women the choice to decide whether or not having a baby is the right course of action for their life. And yet still others of that same group stand defiantly against her ability to protect herself from being in that situation in the first place. The other half ultimately promote paying women to have children: the less work she does and the more kids she has, the more the government supports her. From behind the smoke and mirrors of supposed equality an increased hostility is surfacing, and both the magicians and the women are to blame. Women are seemingly more empowered yet less respected overall, and they are still very much subject to the forces of discrimination.
The plain truth of the matter is that women were indeed, and still are in fact, more respected and cherished by men and other women when they keep their work to the confines of domestic endeavors. Single, hard-working women are often looked down upon or become emotional prey to the very men that seek them. Married mothers who keep a career often find their time away from home and their children is the brunt of accusations, rendering them responsible for the decline in attentive parenting and thus the rise of insubordinate, attention-deficit riddled children.
Throughout history some percentage of women have always worked, as servants, housekeepers, ladies’ maids, governesses, teachers, and tutors. And their children were not viewed as neglected, certainly not any more than the children of nineteenth century high society women whose merits rested solely in their needlepoint skills or their aptitude at the pianoforte, hence spending much of their time at home, and who rarely attended their children, surrendering the brunt of the child-rearing to the governesses. In the working classes the children often were expected to work, sometimes the same grueling hours as their adult counterparts. The Donna Reed era came at a time after women were not only a viable commodity in the professional workforce, but had single-handedly filled every male shoe from the factory to the baseball field during World War II, and can be viewed as an obvious attempt to restore “order” to the family. It is the product of this generation that now comprise the majority of the authority figures in the United States.
Also consider the women today who do not work at all and rely on government subsidy and child support for their income. These women are theoretically all stay-at-home moms, and the presence of this demographic is entirely counterintuitive to the theories that working women are the reason for modern parenting woes.
It seems to be a modern stigma, then, that neglected children are the result of women who choose employment outside the home, a mindset that has come about only since the entrance of women into professions previously only open to men, and a journey that was thwarted when society seemed to say, “Whoa, slow down, ladies…” in the 1950s and early 1960s. Thus, the only difference in the attitudes towards modern women and their parenting skills can be extrapolated, albeit accurately when a close observation of societal progression has been made, to be the result of a subtle but powerful backlash against women’s rights instigated by inane societal standards that lack accurate definition, consistency, and credibility. Furthermore, it is often those who perpetuate and condone a lifestyle of living outside ones means who rail against families who quite simply must have two incomes in order to survive, when said survival is finitely contingent upon two vehicles, a mortgage for a house you hate but a school district you love, five cell phones, a 42 inch television, 895 cable channels, and $4/gallon gas.
Thus we have infused modern culture with two innately opposing ideas: it is acceptable for a woman to hold gainful employment, yet she is still encouraged in her “duty” to breed, and it is the clash of these two evident but ignored social stigmas that have actually made women themselves guilty of discriminate feminism. Many women and couples have children before they are truly ready because it is a socially acceptable notion, but then the wife and mother realizes years later she wants the career, she wants the income because it is her modern right as an empowered woman. Indeed it is, but it is now tinged with the reality of motherhood, which has the distinct capability of transforming either into resent or indifference.
Women mature faster than men, but they also mature longer and as a result become more complex beings much more capable and desirous of change. Thus amid the spectrum of married women battling the intricacies of modern feminism there are, as in most cases, two sides to the story, both equally resplendent in their contributions to a convoluted and confused sense of modern female identity. There are the conflicting standards set by the proverbial They*, and then there are the women that conform to them.
Returning now to the world of the single woman in the 21st century, the ramifications feminism has errantly doled out to this breed have intensified, and the edges of this sword cut deep because they too are cleverly disguised within the oxymoron of several societal implications. In some regard, the attitudes toward single women have softened significantly, for it is indeed a quite recent phenomenon that choosing to remain single is viewed as an acceptable alternative to being unhappily married or checking the “divorced” box on your tax return. It is, but it isn’t. It is because the term “Old Maid” has been politically cor-rectified to “Cat Lady,” and because women are able to financially support themselves and not doomed to either surrender their fortunes to their spouse if they marry or die alone in their parents’ house if they don’t. It isn’t because despite this outward display of acceptance there is still a powerful undercurrent of disdain and disapproval that rages beneath the surface, and it is revealed, ironically, in attitudes, actions, and admonitions that have evolved out of the minds of single men and married women. But again, responsibility also lies with the women themselves, and whether or not they respect their independence and thus respect themselves.
Feminism has made men lazy and filled them with a sense of entitlement. At first, because they have to, men seek the strength of a woman that supports herself and they respect her ambition. But then after the contempt of familiarity sets in it is almost as if they think to themselves, “Well if you’re so strong and tough and in control then you do all the work.” But this thought is cleverly translated as it makes the journey from a man’s brain to his mouth, and when he actually speaks these thoughts the words that come out are romantic trappings and empty promises and well-calculated seductions. And the women respond beautifully. They rearrange their schedules and go out of their way, they cater to the men and think they are reacting in a fashion suitable to the current male/female dynamic. It is acceptable for a woman to make the first move or buy a guy a drink. It is acceptable, because she is an empowered woman, to be open about her feelings and generous with her own finances, time, and attention. But the truth of the matter is this male reaction is a blatant retaliation against a feeling of a loss of masculinity, not an acceptance of a societal shift.
By all accounts she is lured in with pretense that plays on the heartstrings of her own innate desires for love, acceptance, and family, and then when the woman does what she thinks the man wants by his apparent permission given her to proceed, his reaction is the same. He retaliates again, but this time with boredom. He is in his nature the aggressor, the victor, the conqueror, and when that role embedded in the primitive strands of his genetic code is usurped, he does not respond with increased strength as he ought, but rather gives in to his subconscious, though undeniably narcissistic, hatred of the current “system” and responds with indifference and apathy. This is his only course of revenge, because the innate views of the less evolved male are now archaic social prototypes tucked safely away in the volumes of Jane Austen novels. And it works, because actually women love Jane Austen novels and so are eager to be the own makers of their ideal instead of facing the agonizing wait for letters from a suitor, and this often leaves a woman pandering in the dust who had no need for the man in the first place.
When it comes to married women’s view of single women, there are most certainly exceptions to the following rule, including women who are indeed married to their true love who may or may not have children, women whose destiny it is indeed to have children and raise them, and married women, usually much older, who are too wise to care. But the married woman that sold out is the arch nemesis of the confidently single woman and has always been prominent in the social strata, but unfortunately in a world of mystique-weary men who choose the path of least resistance, this group is sufficiently expanding in its cruelty to the single lady. At least in the nineteenth century when a woman sold out she was either having her honor rescued or her fortune increased, either way she was finally en route to obtaining at least a semblance of personal freedom, and at the very least it was an escape from her parents’ home. Today the majority of sell-out brides are entering into marriages from a place of lack. Instead of truly desiring a home, a commitment, a family, the strains of opposing feminist views confuse them and they take the matrimonial step because they don’t want to be lonely, they don’t want to pay all of the bills by themselves, they don’t want to be ostracized for being single. Then single women refer to them as sell-outs. And so is cleft a veritable divide between the female race that is nearly as inescapable as it is damaging.
Then flips the coin to the other side, the second edge of the sword, the other variety of single women, who have exploited the acceptance of public affection and cleavage, those who have taken an increased tolerance of sexual freedom and turned it into their absolute only basis for personal identity. Under the self-made guise of independence and detachment these women offer themselves and their bodies to men completely indiscriminately, and the problem is that the results are far from the progressive nature of those that propel a cause, or a people, forward. Namely, the result is a complete lack of respect, although the methods used to obtain them were born out of a movement that gave women the right to dress, act, think, or marry in whatever fashion they desire. Thus, this side of the problem rests not in the initiative, but in the women’s ability to carry out its purpose correctly. Ladies need no longer fret over the accidental revelation of their ankles, they are no longer required to wear a dress or high heels, they can talk openly with a male about the female body’s functions (if they so desire…), but just because it’s a woman’s right to dress like a whore and let men grab her ass and give it up too easy does not mean that she is necessarily taking the most advantage of being an empowered, independent woman by doing so. In fact she is ultimately thwarting progress, because the seeds and the fruit of this behavior are both a low self esteem that perpetuate disrespect. There was a time when women were not even allowed into libraries. Instead of celebrating the rights of women with a mini skirt, a tube top, and a purse full of condoms, read a book.
The keys to true feminine power and progress lie in unity, solidarity, consistency of beliefs, and most importantly in the throws of self respect, for it is the responsibility of the individual woman to make choices in her life that speak to her and that move her, from a place of response and inspiration, not from the shallow grave of societal expectations, no matter which way they swing. A woman’s determination and dedication to her powers of intuition, compassion, and multi-tasking must be put to the use that She sees fit, in concordance with the One who made her to be no more a man and no less a woman than she already is.
When a woman demands equality she is in essence denying herself of the power inside her. Women are not men and they should not be treated like men, women are not merely capable of competing with men they are capable of beating them, and the ineffectiveness of this push for equality is evidenced by the growing yet cleverly disguised contempt for her efforts. A woman should first, and always, earn the utmost respect to which she is undeniably entitled, and then she will not have to concern herself with playing the game, because she will have already won.
*’They’ is the most quoted source for irrefutable fact in the entire course of human history. “Well you know what They say…” ‘They’ can also refer to the collective powers that be, whether natural or supernatural, that reportedly control the tides of modern existence. They want you to think a certain way (their way) or not think at all.
This will probably come as a huge shock to many who know me now, but I was once, not too terribly long ago, a hardcore conservative. The only channel I watched on TV, ever, was Fox News. I even had this little poster that said “Republican Girls Are Hotter.” Now to shock and amaze the people who knew me then, I am not a Conservative Republican anymore. But neither am I a Liberal Democrat. I’m not Independent, either. I Am Aware. Aware that the only purposes labels serve are to divide and cause dissension; aware that what goes on behind the closed doors in this country is much deeper and darker than the watered down propaganda that assaults us daily. I am aware that this country was founded by people who had the courage and tenacity to do something that had never been done before, yet I am all too aware that this legacy has been bastardized and we are now a country full of lemming-like people who only want to do what everyone else is doing, while simultaneously condemning those who do not uphold a standard of “normal,” which in essence does not even exist, except of course, as an arbitrary and unattainable standard.
So to the conservative front I ask, how is it that you can say you believe in small government, yet believe at the same time it is the right of the government to judge sexual preference and what women can do with their bodies? Morality, it seems, is simply a breeding ground for intolerance. And to the liberals I ask this. How is it that you can promote personal identity and far-reaching social ideals, yet believe that the government and the self-made rich have an obligation to help people who will not even help themselves? To everyone, I exhort the notion that our entire view of our country today is disillusioned, and we perpetuate the confusion by insisting on discussing the solution without even knowing what the problem is.
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I can teach you how to lose a debate with a liberal, it is simple. I can’t teach you how to lose to a conservative, because in their eyes there is no reason to debate, “that is how they were raised!” and they have no time to pretend like they are listening to you. But with the other side of the aisle, the policy-driven intellectual elitists (that’s a compliment, well, at least the last part is) are ready at a moment’s notice to dissect and analyze the logistics of the proposed “solutions” and how they make logical sense and are a good move for the country and the betterment of everyone. They also want to know what exactly it is within the law that induces your dislike for it, and that is why, and how, I lose. Every time. Because I don’t give a rat’s stinking ass what is in the policy, the only thing with which I choose to concern myself is what is behind the policy, and the implications and danger it suggests for the future of our country.
I would not even attempt to tell anyone which specific line and paragraph I do not like about certain policies, and I am not at all afraid to admit that I do not spend my time with my head buried in convoluted legislature and mind numbing newscasts. I have a general distaste for the operations of the modern federal government as a whole, and I do not care to listen to the guy who gets paid by the guy paying the government to tell me what he thinks I need to know. I am unable to debate the merits or shortcomings of the law because I have no decisive, factual information and absolutely no desire to obtain it. This is not to say I do not have well thought-out arguments or opinions based on fact, my facts simply come from sources that retain a blanket view of the outside perspective, sources that are not always considered viable by those who choose to merely believe anything they are told instead of searching their own head for common sense analysis. Someone asked me why we have a certain inane and ridiculous traffic law that no one knows and much less abides by, and I replied “I dunno, they probably just have laws like that so they can pull over black people.” My opinions and theories are just those, opinions and theories, but they are viewed and expressed from an unbiased, philosophical perspective of human life and our purposes, duties, and responsibilities as individuals, and those within the ranks that “govern” us, a perspective I have been cultivating and pursuing for over fifteen years. Perhaps it is also a result of having read way too many Nancy Drew novels as a child. The most famous literary female detective of all time always found her who by following the why.
Let me put it this way, in the light of our most recent policy crisis: As I see it, Obamacare is duct tape on the Titanic. It is not a long term solution; because it reeks of a desperate attempt to further enslave a country’s people to a system that is corrupt but profitable, and therefore now a modern American Institution. The problem is not that Americans need insurance to receive medical treatment, the problem is that Americans have to have insurance to receive medical treatment in the first place! There would be no need for insurance, except catastrophic perhaps, if the medical industry was regulated and not allowed to price gouge any more than a gas station during a hurricane evacuation. But we turn a blind eye to the fact that the Titanic is sinking, and rather prefer just to put a piece of duct tape on this hole that we found. And look how pretty the duct tape is, what’s your favorite part of the duct tape? What don’t you like about the duct tape? Who fucking cares?! It’s duct tape!!!
Furthermore, I believe the debates over this issue are meaningless and insubstantial because all they do is divide us as a people, pit one side against the other, red against blue, my opinion, your opinion, yada yada yada. All those “yada’s” do nothing more than serve as a veil over our eyes and as a car-wreck-like distraction which aligns our focus on the conflict, and not the solution… the ugly, deadly show, and not the beautiful wide road up ahead. The true and only solution will not arrive until we unite and open our eyes to the fact that the We the People are giving the American government way too much power over our lives and our destinies, and we have relinquished our cultural identity to its private interest pandering. Instead of fostering and perpetuating intelligence and free-thinking like it was designed to do, it has now become a horrified and paranoid wreck, thrown into a tumult by the possibility of unity among those who choose to see its decay, its demise, and its close-to-irreparable disintegration of the Individual. If we were all to cease with the labels and the dissent and the enraging need to be right, we could spend more time empowering ourselves and our minds and less time succumbing to the mass marketing, brainwashing consumerism, and fascination with financial debt. When you free yourself of that label of which you are so proud, when you refuse to succumb to the frenzied need to live up to an inane social standard, when you realize that the only two things you need to live a healthy and prosperous life can be found between your ears and growing in the ground, you will open your perspective and begin to see the motives behind what our government is doing. And when you cease to consume yourself with the logistics of their actions, when you stand up for yourself, as an individual, to live your why with an unrelenting determination that you have a specific purpose to fulfill with your life, more beauty unfolds: You realize that nothing “they” do really matters, anyway.